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HOW WE CAN HELP YOU to understand why your baby is crying.
As distressing as it is for you to hear your baby cry, it's normal for all babies to cry. Crying doesn't necessarily mean there's anything wrong and it certainly doesn't mean you're a bad parent. Some babies simply cry more than other babies.
Crying is one of the ways your baby communicates with you. As part of her survival instinct, crying ensures her basic needs for food and comfort are met. She cries because she needs something, but sometimes she won't know what it is she needs.
Babies don't know how others feel at the sound of their crying. They don't cry because they're spoiled and they don't cry to annoy you. They're simply trying to communicate that they need something. |
During the first few weeks of life your baby will sleep a lot, but when awake she'll cry loud and often, usually without tears. On average newborn babies cry for about 1 � hours a day.
By 6 weeks, the amount of time your healthy baby spends crying can have increased to 3 hours a day. This is normal! At this age, there will also be some wakeful periods without crying. As your baby gets older, she'll learn other ways of communicating and the amount of crying will generally slowly reduce.
By 6 months, your baby may spend around 3 hours a day playing and gurgling without crying. However, it's still common for a baby of this age to cry for 1 or 2 hours each day.
All babies are different, even perfectly healthy babies can cry more or less than these figures. The amount of time your baby spends crying each day can often feel much longer than it actually is - even � an hour can feel like an eternity when you're tired.
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Illness
When your baby cries for excessively long periods of time for an unknown reason it's understandable that you would start to worry that she could be unwell or have a physical problem, that's causing her crying. Rather than worry have her seen by a doctor.
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Hunger or thirst
This may sound simple enough to recognize. However, working out whether your baby is hungry or not may not be as easy as you would imagine, especially if you're breast feeding. If you find your baby is feeding more often than you feel she should, you may be misinterpreting her cues. (You'll find more information about this in our hungry baby article).
Breast fed babies don't need additional water until they start eating solid foods. Even then, water is provided more as a learning experience and should not replace breast milk. Breast feed your baby whether you think she's hungry or thirsty.
Formula fed babies don't necessarily need additional water until they commence on solid foods. However, in warmer climates (or possibly heated homes) small amounts of additional water may be helpful, particularly if your baby is prone to constipation. 1 oz of cooled boiled water, if she's less than 3 months old OR 1 - 2 oz, if she's over 3 months, offered once or twice a day, in addition to regular formula feeds, should be sufficient.
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Feeding problems
Feeding problems can cause your baby to develop a stomach ache, spitting up or a pattern of 'snack' feeding. (See common bottle feeding problems for more information).
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Discomfort
As parents, we tend to over-dress our babies. This can make a baby feel overheated. Your baby needs to wear similar layers of clothing as you are wearing. While she's sleeping, she may need to be covered with a sheet and/or blanket/s. Think about how you would feel if you were dressed or covered the same as her. DON'T cover her head with a hat while she's sleeping.
Your baby could be sensitive to the feel of her clothing. Some clothing fibers can feel scratchy or uncomfortable. The seams of clothing could bother her by rubbing against her skin OR her clothes could be too tight. Where possible, dress her in loose fitting clothing made from pure cotton.
Wet or dirty diapers (nappies) can be uncomfortable for your baby, particularly if she has a diaper rash.
Babies have a very good sense of smell. Some odors that may be familiar to you, could be distressing for your baby, for example the smell of cigarettes (or nicotine on your hands) or strong perfumes or colognes.
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Temperament
Temperament, personality, disposition or nature, whatever you like to call it, we're all different and so are babies. Each baby may respond differently to what's happening around them. The temperament of some babies makes them more likely to cry for longer periods and more difficult to settle into a predictable routine.
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Over-stimulation
Some babies are more sensitive to everyday stimulation than others. Remember, only recently your baby lived feeling snug and secure in a warm womb where she was continuously fed. She was comforted by the constant beat of your heart. Although she could hear outside noises they were muffled. Compare this to what your baby experienced today.
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Over-tiredness
If your baby was tired she would fall asleep right? Not necessarily! Some babies will sleep anywhere, anytime. Others need to be provided with the opportunity to sleep in a low stimulating environment.
If your baby needs you to provide her with opportunities to sleep and you miss her cues (signs that indicate she's tired), there's a risk she'll become overtired. Once overtired she can experience great difficulty "switching off" and eventually she can get to the stage of screaming from sheer exhaustion.
Babies show signs of tiredness quite differently than we expect. Tired signs for a young baby include clenched fists, waving arm and leg movements, facial grimaces, fussing, whining and grumbling followed by crying. Often these signs are misinterpreted as boredom or hunger.
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Boredom
A baby certainly needs loving interaction (talking, signing and playful stimulation) from parents or caregivers, BUT� more often a baby will cry from over-stimulation rather than boredom. Boredom is rarely a problem for young babies, except in incidences of neglect.
Although she's learning all the time, your baby doesn't need to be amused every waking moment. Just as she needs your loving interaction, she also needs some quiet time to listen and learn from the sights and sounds around her. To discover how she can control the muscles in her limbs and body is a task in itself.
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Loneliness
Sometimes your baby will cry because she's wants to feel the security of your loving arms. If your baby stops crying as soon as she's picked up, the reason may be that she simply wants to be held.
Where your baby regularly falls asleep while being cuddled, she could also want to be held because she's learned that "this is the way I go to sleep". In which case, she may also want to be picked up when she's tired and wants to sleep.
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Colic
Infant colic is not a specific condition but a term used to describe 'excessively long periods of inconsolable crying in an otherwise healthy thriving baby'. There are a number of different theories on why colic occurs. As yet none have been proven.
The main difference between normal crying and infant colic is whether your baby can be comforted or not. A baby with colic is not able to be comforted during crying, no matter how hard you try. If she's able to be comforted it's not colic.
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Separation anxiety
Separation anxiety begins around the age of 6 months, peaks at around 9 months and continues until approx 18 months. When your child experiences separation anxiety she will cry as soon as her main caregiver leaves her sight. As frustrating as this can feel for parents, this is normal behavior and is a healthy sign of attachment to her main caregiver.
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Teething
Teeth usually appear around 6 months of age, but babies can be born with teeth or for some the first tooth may not appear until 15 months. While teething, your baby's gum may become swollen and sore at the spots where the tooth erupts. Teething discomfort usually last for no longer than a few days.
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Stress
We live in stressful times - babies can feel stress to, especially when parents or caregivers are stressed. If there's a lot of tension, arguments or raised voices around her, your baby can be affected by this.
See also:
Hungry baby
Colic
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